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May 9, 2011

A friend of mine had the book The Love Dare at her house and I asked to borrow it for a couple of days.  It is a Christian book that offers a 40 day “dare” in marriage.  I liked the idea of working on something with my husband that would be focused on our marriage. To be honest, once I flipped through the book, it didn’t seem like quite the thing I am looking for, but I did pull some neat passages from it and thought I would share one tonight.

One of the chapters is on how you greet someone. It reads “You can tell a lot about the state of a couple’s relationship from the way they greet eachother. You can see it in their expression and countenance, as well as how they speak to each other. It is even more obvious by their physical contact. But how much importance should you give a greeting? … This raises an interesting question. How do you greet your friends, coworkers and neighbors? How about acquaintances and those you meet in public? You may even encounter someone you don’t necessarily like yet still acknowledge them out of courtesy.  So, if you’re this nice and polite to other people, doesn’t your spouse deserve the same? Times ten? It’s probably something you don’t think about very often- the first thing you say to him when you wake up in the morning, the look on your face when you get in the car, the energy in your voice when you speak on the telephone. But here’s something you probably don’t stop to consider- the difference it would make to your spouse’s day if you everything about you expressed the fact that you were really, really glad to see them… Remember, love is a choice. So choose to change your greeting. Choose to love.”

2 Comments leave one →
  1. Holly permalink
    May 11, 2011 5:18 am

    We watched the movie “Fireproof” that is connected to this book. A very powerful movie that makes you reflect on your marriage and want to find ways to make it even better!


  2. May 21, 2011 3:33 pm

    I try to read this book each day and sometimes it’s challenging to do what they ask but I’ll tell you this: when I just do what the first three chapters suggest which is basically to be loving and kind and non-critical, it makes a huge difference in how I feel and how my wife feels. A great book that I recommend to all of my married guy friends.

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